Possible Areas for CCOM Exploration and Prayer Before, Between and After Meetings with the Discerner
1. How well do you know the discerner? What more do you need to know? Have you
observed the discerner in a variety of situations?
2. Does the discerner appear to have a sense of the Holy present in his or her life?
How does she or he attend to the presence of God? Do you have a clear sense of
the person’s life of prayer? Spiritual resources?
3. What emotional responses do you have about the discerner? What about the
discerner, if anything, triggers especially positive or negative responses in you?
4. What do you know about how the discerner is viewed by other members of the
5. Can you put into words on which all can agree your understanding of why the
discerner believes he or she is being called to ordination?
6. What do you experience as the discerner’s understanding of ministry as she or he
feels called to exercise it? Is the discerner aware of the similarities and the unique
features of each order of ministry? (Laity, Diaconate, Priesthood, Episcopate?)
7. In your experience with the discerner, does she/he interact with others in an open,
honest, giving and receiving way? How have you become aware of the discerner’s
ability to listen and take initiative? How does the discerner deal with the way things
are done, with traditions that matter to people, when sensing a need for change?
8. Does the discerner appear to have a clear sense of boundaries? Is she/he able to
talk about situations that required decisions about what was or was not his/her
9. Is the discerner eager to learn, excited about new ideas? Is she/he able to reflect
and ponder. Is he/she open to being challenged?
10. Does the discerner have a balance of interests in life or is the church his/her single
11. When the discerner has had difficulties and problems, how has she/he sought help?
12. What do you know about how the discerner reacts to and relates to persons in
authority? How does she or he deal with disagreements with ones in authority?
13. What do you understand about how the discerner deals with conflict?
14. Does the discerner consistently engage in self-care physically, emotionally and
spiritually? Where does he or she need to pay more respect to her or his own
15. Does the discerner seem to have a sense of the world outside his/her particular
location and passion? Is there a curiosity about other cultures and communities?
Is there a sense of connectedness to a wider community – to the diocese – to the
broader Church both inside and outside Anglicanism?
16. Have you become aware of anything that would significantly enhance or impede the
exercise of the discerner’s ministry? (e.g. past history with substance abuse, having
been abused as a child, marital issues, a tendency to church hop, repeating
dysfunctional patterns of behavior, weight issues, etc.? None of these is a
necessary bar to effective ministry. Any of them, recognized and prayerfully,
intelligently dealt with through counseling, etc. can be used by God to significantly
enhance ministry. Ignored or evaded, they can be serious red flags.)
17. Is the discerner sufficiently aware of and realistic about the financial implications of
a seminary education/School for Deacons or other necessary training?